教養的溫度：打造孩子成長的六大基石

在快速變動的時代裡，育兒不再只是父母單方面的給予與要求，而是關於尊重、引導與陪伴的藝術。如何幫助孩子健康、自信且快樂地成長，是每一位家長與教育者共同關心的課題。然而，許多家長將教育責任完全交託給學校，認為老師應該是主要的引導者。事實上，家長在孩子成長過程中的影響力，往往比學校更深遠。

家庭，是孩子接觸世界的第一個場域。從孩子呱呱落地的那一刻起，父母的語言、情緒、行為和價值觀，就在潛移默化地塑造他們的世界觀與人生觀。以下六大面向，提供家長在日常教養中可以實踐的重要原則，並附上實際生活中的例子，幫助更容易理解與應用。

1. 建立良好規範：從生活中學會自律

孩子的行為模式來自於日常習慣的累積。協助他們學會提出自己的想法、表達需求，並在生活中落實規律，能讓他們逐步建立責任感與紀律感。規範並不是束縛，而是保護和引導的邊界。

每天晚上8點準時刷牙、收拾玩具後上床睡覺，是建立作息規律的一環。當孩子在吃飯時，要求一邊玩玩具，父母可以耐心地說明：「我們用餐時就專心吃飯，等吃完飯就可以一起玩，你最喜歡的積木囉！」

2. 培養獨立與自信：讓孩子勇敢面對挑戰

每一次的挑戰與挫折，都是孩子邁向獨立與成長的跳板。從綁鞋帶到自己解決同儕間的小衝突，生活中的大小事都是孩子建立自我價值與自信的關鍵時刻。

四歲的俊俊自己綁鞋帶失敗了三次，媽媽沒有立刻幫忙，而是坐在一旁說：「媽媽相信你可以，再試一次看看。」當俊俊終於成功時，臉上的驕傲與快樂，遠比完成任務本身更重要。

3. 適齡的飲食習慣：從吃飯學習自律

健康的身體是成長的基礎。鼓勵孩子選擇對健康有益的食物，定時定量進食，並養成正確的餐桌禮儀，不僅建立飲食規律，更讓他們學會尊重與感恩。

家長可以帶孩子一起去市場挑選蔬菜，讓孩子參與製作簡單的餐點，如「小手捏飯糰」或「水果串」，提高他們對健康食物的興趣。用餐時，堅持坐在餐椅上、不玩玩具，也是飲食教養的一部分。

4. 情緒發展的引導：接住孩子的每一個感受

孩子的情緒世界豐富且細膩。他們需要的不只是情緒管理的技巧，更是理解與陪伴。當孩子生氣、害怕或開心時，成人適時地引導與回應，可以讓他們學會如何表達、處理與轉化情緒。

當六歲的弟弟在玩積木時被哥哥搶走，情緒崩潰大哭，父母不急著斥責，而是說：「弟弟，我們知道你很難過，因為你正在蓋一個城堡對吧？哥哥，我們知道弟弟使用了你最喜歡的顏色，但你可以先詢問弟弟的意願後，再拿走喔！藉由機會教育，引導同儕之間的溝通」這樣的接納能讓孩子感覺到被理解，而不是被否定。

5. 穩定的作息：為健康與學習打底

穩定的作息是孩子身心健康的基礎，也為未來的學習生活建立良好節奏。良好的睡眠、運動與休息安排，可以提升專注力與情緒穩定度。

每天早上7:30起床、晚上9:00睡覺，假日與平日差異不大。即使是假期，爸媽也會安排簡單的晨間活動（如晨間散步），避免孩子因熬夜而影響週一上學的狀態。

6. 有共識的教育：一家人的育兒合作

教育方式不應只是單方面的規定，而是整個家庭的共識。當父母有一致的立場，孩子會感受到穩定與安全。不同的教養方式，若未協調，反而容易讓孩子混淆與困惑。

爸爸主張週末可以玩1小時平板，媽媽則完全禁止。這種不一致容易讓孩子挑戰規則。家長可以坐下來討論，改為「平日不能用平板，週末限1小時」，並由雙方共同執行，讓孩子知道規則是有邏輯與一致性的。

家庭才是孩子的第一所學校

教育的真正起點，不在教室裡，而在家裡的每一個對話、每一頓飯、每一場陪伴。學校能給予的是知識與規則，而家庭賦予的是信任、安全感與人生的方向。每一位家長，都是孩子最重要的啟蒙老師，也是他們人生旅途上無可取代的同路人。

The Warmth of Parenting:

Six Pillars of Raising a Confident and Healthy Child

In an era of rapid change, parenting is no longer just about giving orders or fulfilling responsibilities. It has become an art of respect, guidance, and companionship. Helping children grow into healthy, confident, and joyful individuals is a shared mission for all parents and educators.

Yet, many parents today entrust education entirely to schools, believing that teachers should be the main guides in their child’s development. In truth, the influence of parents often outweighs that of any teacher.

Home is the first environment where a child learns to see the world. From the moment they are born, a parent’s words, emotions, behaviors, and values begin to shape their worldview and understanding of life. The following six principles, illustrated with practical examples, offer valuable guidance for cultivating a supportive and balanced upbringing.

1. Establishing Structure: Learning Self-Discipline through Daily Routines

A child’s behavior is shaped by the habits they build at home. Teaching them how to express themselves, make requests, and follow routines gradually instills responsibility and self-regulation. Rules aren’t restrictions—they’re boundaries that protect and guide.

Brushing teeth at 8 PM and putting away toys before bed are simple, consistent routines that help children develop discipline. When a child wants to play with toys during dinner, a parent might gently explain:

“We focus on eating during mealtime. After dinner, you can play with your favorite blocks.”

2. Fostering Independence and Confidence: Let Children Face Challenges

Challenges and setbacks are stepping stones to independence. From tying shoelaces to resolving minor conflicts with friends, everyday moments can empower children to trust in their abilities and build resilience.

Four-year-old JunJun failed to tie his shoes three times. His mother didn’t intervene right away. Instead, she encouraged him:

“I believe you can do it. Try one more time.”

When he finally succeeded, his proud smile said more than words ever could.

3. Age-Appropriate Eating Habits: Teaching Self-Control Through Mealtimes

Physical health is the foundation of growth. Encouraging children to choose healthy foods and eat at regular times helps instill not only good nutrition but also gratitude and respect for food.

Parents can involve their children in grocery shopping, letting them pick vegetables or prepare simple meals like rice balls or fruit skewers. Mealtime becomes more engaging and meaningful. Sitting at the table and avoiding distractions like toys is part of this educational experience.

4. Emotional Development: Supporting Every Feeling

Children’s emotions are deep and nuanced. More than just teaching emotional control, parents must model empathy and active listening. Guiding children through their emotions fosters psychological well-being and stronger communication.

When six-year-old Leo had his blocks taken by his older brother, he broke down in tears. Instead of scolding, their parent said:

“Leo, I know you're upset—you were building a castle, right? And you, big brother, you wanted the blue blocks. Next time, let’s ask first before taking things.”

This moment becomes a lesson in emotional expression and mutual respect.

5. Stable Routines: Building a Foundation for Health and Learning

A consistent schedule promotes both physical and emotional stability. Regular sleep, movement, and quiet time enhance concentration and emotional regulation, preparing children for school and life.

Waking up at 7:30 AM and going to bed at 9:00 PM—even on weekends—helps maintain balance. On holidays, parents can organize a morning walk or reading time instead of letting children stay up late, avoiding the Monday morning slump.

6. Unified Parenting: A Family-Wide Commitment to Education

Discipline should not be imposed by one parent alone. A shared, consistent approach to parenting creates a secure environment for children. Inconsistent methods can lead to confusion or manipulation.

Dad allows one hour of tablet time on weekends, while Mom says no screen time at all. This mixed message causes friction. Instead, parents can discuss and agree:

“No screens during the week, and one hour allowed on weekends.”

Following through as a team reinforces the importance and logic of the rules.

Home Is a Child’s First School

The true beginning of education isn’t in a classroom, but in every meal shared, every bedtime story told, and every moment of connection at home. Schools teach knowledge and structure. Families teach trust, security, and life direction. Every parent is a child’s first—and most irreplaceable—teacher on the journey of life.

原文 (中文) : Rita Wen

翻譯 (英文) : Bruno Huang

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