用鼓勵，將「負能量」轉化成「富能量」

在這個多元而複雜的世界裡，每個人從出生開始，就進入了一個個小型社會：原生家庭、校園團體、職場組織。我們在這些人際網絡中不斷互動、調整，進而塑造出屬於自己的生活樣貌與價值實踐。

然而，在實現自我價值的過程中，孩子難免會經歷內在的比較與矛盾，這便是「自卑感」的來源。事實上，阿德勒心理學認為，自卑並非心理不健康的表現，而是一種驅使人向上成長的動力。只要我們相信：每個人來到這個世界上，都有其獨特的使命與責任，那麼，自卑就不會成為阻礙，而是可以被轉化的力量。

以孩子在學校報告為例，緊張其實代表著「在乎」，而非軟弱。當我們引導孩子將這些所謂的「負面情緒」重新定義，並以鼓勵的方式支持他們，就能把這些能量轉化為向上的「富能量」。如此一來，孩子不只感受到被接納，更能夠建立起自我價值與責任感。

當孩子的自信心逐步建立並穩固後，他們將更能自在地融入團體生活，與他人建立互信、友善的關係；同時也會減少對社會刻板印象的過度在意。這份從內在而生的勇氣，將使他們更能接納自己，也更懂得體諒他人。

與其急著修正孩子的行為，不如以鼓勵為出發點，邀請孩子成為我們的生活夥伴。這份正向的合作關係，正是孩子邁向成熟與幸福的關鍵起點。

延伸參考資料：

- 阿德勒心理學理論

- 臨床心理師 洪仲清

-《以美之名》心理觀點探討

Encouragement: Transforming “Negative Energy” into “Rich Energy”

In today’s diverse and complex world, every person enters a series of micro-societies from the moment they are born—starting with the family, followed by school communities, and later, the professional workplace. It is through these layers of social interaction that we develop our unique lifestyles and realize our personal values.

During this journey of self-realization, it’s natural for children to experience moments of comparison and inner conflict—what we often refer to as “feelings of inferiority.” According to Adlerian psychology, however, inferiority is not a sign of weakness or psychological dysfunction. Rather, it is a driving force that propels individuals to grow. As long as we believe that everyone comes into this world with a unique mission and purpose, those feelings of inferiority can be transformed into powerful motivators.

Take, for example, a child giving a school presentation. That nervousness they feel is not a flaw—it’s a sign that they care. Yet we often label emotions such as anxiety, fear, sadness, and frustration as “negative.” What if, instead, we reframed these emotions and encouraged children to turn them into rich, positive energy? With the right support, children won’t just feel accepted—they’ll build a sense of self-worth and responsibility.

As a child’s confidence becomes more stable, they find it easier to integrate into group settings, form relationships built on trust and kindness, and gradually become less affected by societal expectations or stereotypes. This inner strength allows them to embrace their true selves and extend greater empathy toward others.

Rather than rushing to correct a child’s behavior, why not begin with encouragement? By doing so, we invite them to become partners in life, not just followers of rules. This positive collaboration is the foundation for their future maturity and happiness.

Further Reading and References:

- Adlerian Psychology

- Clinical Psychologist Chung-Ching Hung

- In the Name of Beauty – Psychological Perspectives

原文（中文）：Rita Wen

翻譯（英文）：Bruno Huang

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